My last log got cut a little short because I ended up having to leave, but it’s all good! I got down a majority of what I wanted to say in regards to my lesson of the day. And guess what – I actually implemented it today! I’m so proud of myself.
So today I returned to work after my day off, and I had this plan in my head. If anyone brought up my hair again, I would “jokingly” (but lowkey firmly) tell them the story of what I told my dad when he brought it up to me: that every strand of hair on my head is my own and I will do with it what I want.
And it happened exactly as I imagined it – one of my coworkers whom I haven’t seen in a while brought it up to some of my other coworkers and the diatribe started again. “I can’t imagine her being a psychologist with blue hair-” and etc. But this time, I cut in and I was like, “I’m going to say to you what I told my dad when he brought it up with me: it’s my hair and I’ll do what I want with it, when I want”. And then my coworker kept going, but my other coworker interjected saying that appearance really doesn’t matter that much when it comes to an impression – her son’s girlfriend was covered in tattoos, like me. To which I replied, “And I’m sure she’s a really nice person, am I right?” My coworker agreed, and I looked back to the other coworker and said, “I’m going to be the coolest, most chill psychologist ever.” She just laughed it off and shook her head. But hey! I stood my ground, and they all stopped the commenting. And I did it calmly and kindly too!!! With a little bit of firmness, but just enough to get my point across.
I felt soooooo much better afterwards. Today was a good day! I learnt a lesson and I put it in place. Life can be so much better with boundaries.
Anyways, I’m at Adrian’s now (yes I’ve basically moved in here LOL) so I shall keep this brief for today.
Lesson of the day: learn your lessons – and then live them!!!!